There are a lot of wedding superstitions (both good and bad), but just trying to keep up with all of them will only add to your wedding stress. So skip it. This list has all the silly superstitions that are totally okay to ignore — or put your own twist on if you choose!

1. You can’t see each other before the wedding.

Bad Luck Wedding Superstitions to Ignore

Loft Photographie

The Superstition: Back in the day, brides and grooms were prohibited from seeing each other until the last minute so that the groom didn’t have the chance to change his mind. (Uh, yeah.) The custom eventually transformed into the idea that it was somehow unlucky for the groom to see his bride on their wedding day.

Our Take: Today, some couples stick to tradition because they like the excitement and anticipation of seeing each other for the first time during the ceremony. But we say, do what makes you most comfortable. We know lots of brides and grooms who have skipped tradition and stayed in the same room the night before, hung out and had breakfast together the morning of, and (most conveniently) scheduled their photo sessions together with their photographer before the ceremony.

2. Steer clear of yellow roses (or you’ll be green with envy). 

Bad Luck Wedding Superstitions to Ignore

Tara McMullen Photography

The Superstition: During the Victorian era, The Language of Flowers – a book that equated flowers with words and meanings — was popularized all over Europe. According to the book, tulips stand for love and passion and stephanotis means marital happiness. On the flip side, yellow roses supposedly represent jealousy.

Our Take: If you love a flower, give it your own special meaning—especially if it has some significance to you—and don’t worry about what those Victorians had to say about it. (PS: That pretty flower arrangement above is from this album: A Casual Laid-Back Wedding in Seattle, WA)

3. You’re doomed if you drop the ring. 

Bad Luck Wedding Superstitions to Ignore

JBM Wedding Photography

The Superstition: As tradition goes, if someone dropped the ring during the ceremony, it meant that person would die!

Our Take: Obviously that’s crazy talk. But it does bring up a good point — if you have a ring bearer handling your rings, you want to ensure they’re tied on tight and hand off that ring pillow to him at the last minute, just before he walks down the aisle.

4. The bride has to be carried over the threshold.

Bad Luck Wedding Superstitions to Ignore

Choco Studio

The Superstition: Ancient Romans believed that carrying the bride over the threshold of the couple’s home protected her from evil spirits.

Our Take: Do it for fun when you get home from the honeymoon, if you want, as a nod to tradition. Or give it a twist — walk hand-in-hand into your new home together instead!

5. Don’t get married on a Saturday, or in May, or on the 13th. 

Bad Luck Wedding Superstitions to Ignore

Lauren Schwarz Photography

The Superstition: There are actually several superstitions we’re referencing here. According to English folklore, Saturday is the unluckiest day of the week to marry while Wednesday is supposed to be best of all. Then the fear of marrying in May actually dates back to the Romans who held their festival for the dead in May; there’s even a nursery rhyme that reads, “Marry in the month of May, and you’ll surely rue the day.” And finally, there’s the infamous unlucky number 13.

Our Take: Try booking your dream venue while following those rules and you’ll understand why all of these superstitions need to leave the equation. Unless your family tradition dictates that you find a lucky or auspicious wedding date, choose a day that works for you and move on!