When you’re newly engaged, you’ll find lots of bizarre thoughts starting to creep into your mind. Fashion-obsessed brides might think, “All of my friends would be PSYCHED to wear strapless baby pink dresses with a butt bow!”* While craft-savvy brides might wonder, “Could I D.I.Y. 2,000 paper flowers to save money on bouquets? Regardless of your particular flavour of crazy, here are three wedding myths that are pretty much universal.
MYTH 1:”EVERY Detail at Our Wedding Matters!”
When you’re presented with 20,000 wedding invitations and 14 potential aisle runners, it can start to feel like every little decision will make or break your wedding. Here’s a secret: 99% of your guests won’t remember ANY of the small stuff. In two months ,(or two weeks), they probably won’t be able to recall what your wedding favours were—never mind whether they were handmade with love. One of the smartest things a bride and groom can do early on is choose a colour palette – not because your wedding needs to be matchy-matchtastic, but because it will narrow down your choices if you ONLY have to look at, say, the purple options. Decide what you care about, whether it’s flowers or music or food, then make as many quick decisions as you can about everything else based on your colour palette. If you’re not obsessed with invitations, for example, you won’t look back and think, “Our wedding would have been SO much better if we had gone with the OTHER purple wedding invitation.”
MYTH 2:”Having a Wedding Registry Makes Us Greedy!”
Making a huge list with fancy-pants potential wedding presents can feel totally gift-grabby. Your guests are better off buying you something you want than guess what might make you happy, (and to try and guess what other guests have already bought for you.) Remember: Just because you register for gifts, that doesn’t mean your guests HAVE to shop your registry.
MYTH 3:”Screw Tradition! We Can Re-Invent the Wedding!”
Every couple that’s sat through a ho-hum ceremony or a poorly planned reception thinks, “We’re going to shake things up and our wedding will be WILD!” Keep in mind that most weddings happen a certain way because tradition WORKS! For our reception, For example, one couple decided they wanted a make their own sundae bar with the bride and groom scooping the ice cream – SO not okay, especially for 196 guests! They compromised and had a gelato stand that was staffed by someone NOT wearing an expensive white dress. A recently engaged bride thought it would be fun to save cash on bartenders by letting the wedding party take shifts behind the bar. Potentially fun, but your friends probably don’t want to be mixing Aunt Betty’s tequila sunrise – or be liable when your mom’s rowdy boss gets behind the wheel. It’s fine to talk through crazy-out-there ideas, but don’t get so attached to an idea that you lose sight of the fact that it’s unrealistic – and don’t be afraid to fall back on tradition, at least some of the time – guaranteed to save you at least a few wedding day headaches!